First steps in male chastity

The first time, you may certainly feel a bit intimidated by the circumstances. But with time, and in seeing your partner/yourself take and feel the pleasure, you will quickly understand your advantages and you will become more self-confident. You may also tell him that if he does his job well, you will allow him to reach orgasm tomorrow. {If you aren't lucky enough to have a superior, I can fill this gap until you find one]

Once this first step has been completed and if you feel at ease and you observe that everything is fine between you, you may start having him wear a chastity device. Or place one on yourself.

Once you or your partner is locked in a male chastity device, I advise you to adopt a firm attitude towards him or one self. The chastity device reminds him at all times that he is under your control. He will expect you to make suggestions explicitly. He will have the task of executing to your satisfaction, and in order to obtain the forthcoming release. So don’t hesitate to have guidelines and to share your desires with him.

You must be clear about the fact that he consented to your idea or that he approached you to ask that you manage his sexuality. It’s necessary to always remain firm about your shared commitments.

If one day he asks you to remove his chastity device to reach orgasm, he will also want to be rebuffed and teased. So, don’t hesitate to refuse but offer a future date so that he can fully satisfy you until then. 

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Hygiene in Chastity


If the device is worn for a long period, it will be necessary to clean the penis on a regular base. You will not need to open the chastity device because a small amount of soap and the shower head, that splashes water around in the device, will be sufficient. All the same, make sure to dry the penis well using a hair dryer because it is not good for the skin to remain humid. However, once a week it will be necessary to remove the chastity device in order to clean it well. If you do not want him to be able to touch his penis during this weekly cleaning, I advise you to bind his hands behind his back during the operation. The sensation of being released from his device without the power to touch himself will cause even more frustration for a man.

Don’t forget that for good physical hygiene, a man must empty his prostate gland regularly. It enlarges over time to produce a liquid that allows sperm to move freely. This gland, which does not contain sperm, has to be emptied in order to avoid prostatic hypertrophy. The time interval between each evacuation is specific to each man but, personally, I think that once a week is sufficient to offer total safety in this regard. If you do not want to authorize intercourse or masturbation, a man can empty his liquid through the urethra by simply massaging the prostate using a prostate massager. The advantage of this technique is that the man can empty this gland without reaching orgasm and without any sensation of pleasure, while also remaining enclosed in his chastity device. Additional information on hygiene is on this page. Additional hygiene information

psychological effects 

You will quickly notice a change of attitude in the chaste man. You/He will be more attentive and will not grumble about helping you with household tasks. He will treat you like a prince(ess) and will be attentive to you. If these changes please you, don’t forget to adjust your behaviour towards him. Have a firm and directive attitude focused on your well-being and your sexual fulfilment. Once you have taken control of his sexuality, his principal preoccupation will be to be at your service. Don’t leave him on the couch in front of the television. Give him directives such as cleaning up the kitchen, preparing a bath for you, waiting for you in the bed to give you a massage or simply to warm your bed (very practical in winter!). Don’t be bothered about giving orders and remind him that if you are not satisfied you will leave his device on for a longer period. This is very simple.

Fitting your device

If you are new to chastity, I advise you to ask your partner to put the chastity device on you. However, be sure to keep the padlock close at hand. You must close the device with the padlock so that the little click, the noise produced by the lock when it is closed, marks the start of his “chaste period”. Starting from this moment, it must be clear for both of you that he is under your control.

I also advise you to always keep the keys on you. You must make him understand that you are the keeper of his freedom and that this could happen at any time. As a safety measure, I advise you to put a duplicate of the key in a hidden envelope so that, in case of emergency, he can remove the chastity device. 

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Testing period

Make sure that you can tolerate the chastity device by first closing it for 1 hour, 1 day, 1 night and then 2 or 3 days. Once these steps have been completed, make sure that there are no problems of pinching or burns on the skin. If everything is in order, you may then begin chastity for longer periods.

If you still have questions, need more information on any aspects of male chstity. I have attached a website here. That should answer any further queries 

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